You died, however you reside on: Elergy for my late Brother and pal -By Chief Mike Ozekhome
Excessive Chief Pius Enakhumhe Abu Ozekhome, you died final week. However you reside on. Oxymoron? Sure. I’ll clarify. We cherished one another dearly, to no finish. We weren’t simply brothers, however very shut mates, confidants and soulmates. As Mark Anthony as soon as famously put it in regards to the Roman warrior, Julius Caesar, in William Shakespeare’s epic by the identical title, Julius Caesar (Act 3, Scene 2), late Pius Ozekhome, aka Supervisor, my rapid elder brother, “he was my pal, devoted and simply to me”. My late brother was stated to have foreseen and foretold of my beginning. Our mom instructed us that when she was closely pregnant, Pius as a child would contact and caress her bulging tummy and declare, “Agbedor is inside right here”. Every time he was consuming or ingesting in our then rusty Iviukwe village rural setting, Supervisor was stated to at all times pour some meals particles and water on the bottom and proudly declare, “Agbedor, eat your foods and drinks your water, in order that you’ll get fats within the stomach”. Our mom and neighbours instructed us that on the day I used to be lastly born, the bizarre occurred. Supervisor was stated to have instantly jumped up, thrown up his palms in pleasure, ecstasy and with the boisterous celebration of a kid, he began exclaiming, “Agbedor has arrived; Agbedor has arrived; Agbedor has arrived…”. This was how my late brother, the Omegbha (Clever One) of Weppa Wanno Kingdom, gave me my private identify, AGBEDOR. That is the identify I bear until date. My father, late Chief Abu Ozekhome, nevertheless, gave me a reputation, as fathers should do to their wives’ new child infants. My father gave me the identify EMOEPO (there is no such thing as a extra quarrel; there may be peace). That identify by no means caught. Supervisor’s identify for me, AGBEDOR, melted it. The identify Agbedor has since change into glued to me endlessly.
What’s so important in regards to the identify AGBEDOR? Why did my late brother insist on the identify even earlier than I used to be born? In Weppa-Wanno, Etsako and Afenmai language, Agbedor means “BLACKSMITH”. A blacksmith is one who fabricates objects out of iron by cold and hot, forging them into form on an anvil. A blacksmith forges uncooked iron into hoes, cutlases, knives, daggers, footwear for horses known as farriers, and so forth. The primary proof of smithing by hammering iron into form is a dagger present in Egypt, courting again to 1350 B.C; the possible product of a Hittite tradesman.
It’s historically believed that folks named Agbedor are sturdy, resilient, affected person, compassionate, enduring and at all times insist that due course of be adopted. That’s the reason he forges uncooked iron right into a form he wishes and which he believes is helpful to the folks. I made a decision to dig extra. Nameecho.com was fairly illuminating. Analyzing the letters, A, G, B, E, D, O, R (Agbedor) individually, Nameecho.com states:
“The identify holds the vibration of an unbiased chief, somebody who wont change their thoughts underneath different’s strain…having the ability to be pleased about what one has been given in life…has an empathetic nature, and is predominantly emotional; this individual is anticipated to be affectionate, compassionate and warmhearted; replicates the mindset of profitable folks…having life precept to information by…probability to complain; has a mannered and inclusive strategy social expertise in life. Within the case of the identify Agbedor, this individual understands the place his focus needs to be in his relationships, the life challenges speaks of accepting and respecting the opinions of their mates”. In identify numerology, Nameecho.com states “Future (so-so); Love (descent); Well being (very excessive); Cash (very excessive); Household (first rate); Friendship (excessive). I’m pleased with this identify, Agbedor.
In flip, and in reciprocity, I gave my late brother his now well-known identify by which he’s recognized and known as by one and all: “MANAGER”. I gave him the identify when he was managing my legislation agency in Lagos within the late Eighties as much as early Nineteen Nineties, after quitting the Nigeria Police Drive as a Sergeant and crack detective. How can I ever overlook such an expensive brother and pal? NEVER! NEVER!! NEVER!!! So, in September 2019, upon falling in poor health to most cancers of the bladder, I introduced him, his spouse and a few of his kids to dwell with me in my Abuja house, caring for and nurturing him. God Almighty made it doable with the means and wherewithal that enabled me to ship my pricey brother to one of the best hospitals in Nigeria and Dubai, as suggested by medical consultants. This has been on since September 2019. I thank God that I gave my pricey brother one of the best of well being and medical care that trendy science and medication might ever provide. Supervisor gave the impression to be steady, recovering quick, and doing higher; for on three events, he really visited our Iviukwe neighborhood again house, albeit, briefly. He was obtained with heat and jubilation. Even together with his lingering pains, he steadfastly held on to the Lord until the final day. He made the Holy Rosary his companion. In his dying days, he was, as a Catholic, administered with the Sacraments of Penance, Anointing of the Sick and Viaticum (the Holy Communion administered to a dying individual). And guess what? Two Catholic Monks did this on the Nationwide Hospital, Abuja. One other revealing side of his final moments on earth was when he pointedly instructed his spouse on the day he died (September 10, 2020), that he can be “trying out of the assembly at about 7pm for the reason that assembly was over”. Prodded on by his passionately devoted spouse, Roseline, who was with him all by way of thick and skinny, as to what he meant by “trying out of the assembly at about 7pm,” Pius merely smiled and drooped his head. However, he didn’t reply. However, guess what? He gave up the ghost at about 7.50pm! So, my soulmate, I do know and verily consider you might be ensconced within the heat bosom of the Lord. You nicely knew you had been becoming a member of Him. Supervisor, my pricey brother and pal, you had been so many issues rolled into one: mine and Ozekhome pillar of energy; neighborhood chief; unusual unifier; peacemaker; agriculturist; farmer; entrepreneur; dealer; sportsman; centre referee; soccer commentator; helper of the poor; position mannequin; extraordinary journalist and exponent of the well-known ‘Ogidigba’ masterpiece programme on AIT; Excessive Chief; former chairman of Weppa Wanno Council of Chiefs; effective Police Officer and a gentleman; shrewd politician, political chief and grasp political strategist. Wait, I’ve not completed. Omegbha, you had been a Cultural Ambassador and a repository and custodian of Weppa Wanno native legal guidelines, customs, traditions and tradition. You had been a father determine to me and members of the Ozekhome Ukpi Drum lineage. You had been the pioneer chairman of the Ozekhome Descendants Union (ODU); and the House Commander within the “warfare” entrance. You had been extraordinarily sartorial, gregarious, humble, effervescent, kind-hearted, beneficiant, hardworking, caring and fairly loving. We can’t overlook that you simply had been an ideal artist, actor and comic who acted lead roles in lots of house movies. Neighborhood masquerade? You had been there. You bubble with the sap of life like a yam tendril within the wet season (thanks, Chinua Achebe – “Issues Fall Aside”).
To say your dying is a giant blow to me as an individual is a good understatement, maybe, for need of higher grammatical exactitude. However, who am I to query God’s resolution? He cherished you excess of all of the mortals on this world mixed. Extra importantly, within the phrases of Ecclesiastes 3, “there’s a time for every thing, and a season for each exercise underneath the heavens: a time to be born a time to die”.
Iyokpamhe lagi ikuekhia mhe, you had been due to this fact, destined and primed to die when the Lord known as you. That is my biggest solace. The lack of a cherished one, although fairly painful to these left behind, should be countered with the lyrical phrases in Romans 14:8, “For if we dwell, we dwell for the Lord, or if we die, we die for the Lord; due to this fact, whether or not we dwell or die, we’re the Lord’s”. Ikhumhinebe, you “have fought the great battle, you may have completed the race, you may have stored the religion” (2 Tim 4:7). So, glory be to God Most Excessive.
In my humble estimation, Supervisor, you got here, you noticed and also you conquered (veni, vidi, vici). Your loss is not only mine. It’s an irreparable loss to your pretty spouse, pricey kids, your complete Ozekhome dynasty, the grieving folks of Iviukwe, Weppa-Wanno lands, the three Etsakos, Afenmai and Edo State generally. Ebibinoze, you may have thrown our land into nice mourning, as a result of “when beggars die, there aren’t any comets seen; the heavens themselves blaze forth the dying of Princes” (Shakespeare, Julius Caesar, coran Calpurnia, Caesar’s spouse, Act 2 Scene 2). Let me borrow the phrases of the nice orator, Mark Anthony, in the identical Julius Caesar, Act 5, Scene 5: “His life was light, and the weather combined so nicely in him that Nature would possibly rise up and say to all of the world, ‘This was a person.” Ozaomhe, you left your golden footprints indelibly within the sands of time.
But that is the towering determine that the chilly palms of dying merely snatched away. Similar to that! However dying itself should die someday. Mentioned John Donne, “Loss of life, be not proud, although some have known as thee Mighty and dreadful, for thou artwork not so; For these whom thou assume’st thou dost overthrow die not, poor Loss of life, nor but canst thou kill me. Why swell’st thou then? One quick sleep previous, we wake eternally And dying shall be no extra; Loss of life, thou shalt die”. Sure, dying thou too shall die.
Within the phrases of Buddha, “even dying is to not be feared by one who has lived properly”. Loss of life, the place is thy sting? Loss of life, thou artwork ashamed. Enakhumhe, you may have gone to relaxation with the Lord, free from the each day stress of this vain-glorious world of iniquity, impunity, lawlessness, self-importance and futility. Sure, within the phrases of David Mazzuchelli, “life is traumatic, pricey. That’s why they are saying, Relaxation in Peace”.
Adieu, Supervisor. Farewell, agene no zaza. Goodbye, Enakhumhe, my everlasting brother and pal. Relaxation within the Lord, Pius, until we meet once more to half no extra. So, you see? You died, however you reside on.
Thought for the week
“Our lifeless are by no means lifeless to us, till we’ve forgotten them.” (George Eliot)
“By means of Adam and Eve we obtained dying. By means of Christ we obtained life…” (Jackson Ponzio)
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